What Makes Life So Unfair?

Do bad things always happen to you?  Are you mistreated by everyone?  How come some people seem to always have good things happen to them?  If you want to change lot in life, then read this blog through until the end.  It might hurt, but what I am saying is true. 

The answer to your dilemma is to reframe.  Reframing is about perspective.  You can take the same picture, and highlight different aspects with a new border.  It works the same way in our heads.  If you are stuck and focused on the negative things, then you will have a less than desirable experience. 

The opposite is also true.  If you choose to think about positive things, then you will more than likely have a good experience.  Have you ever heard the old saying, “Life is what you make it.”  Or how about, “If life gives you lemons make lemonade.” 

Experience of a Friend

I recently went on a camping trip with with a large group, and my friend Mike Bernard was there.  One morning everyone found their own area and had a quiet time with God in nature.  Some of us did different things.  Mike tried to read, but quickly found himself observing nature. 

He related the story like this.  “I was sitting down and taking in the scene.  I asked God to speak to me through his second book of revelation (nature).  I started noticing the dead leaves and sticks on the path ahead of me.  As I followed the path with my eyes, I saw a stump in the middle of the path and like many parents would have, I thought, ‘Someone could trip over that and get hurt.’  Next I noticed the gnats flying around my head and agitating me.”

He continued, “Then it dawned on me, I was missing the beauty of it all.  I began to pay attention to the calm lake at the end of the path, the light shining through the leaves, and listen to the birds sing sweetly in the trees.  Then God reminded me, ‘Life is like this path.  Your experience will be what you choose to focus on.’”

The Bottom Line

Guess what.  Everybody has bad things happen to them.  Do not believe the lie that life should be fair for everybody because it isn’t.

If you want to change your life, you need to change your perspective.  I challenge you to reframe your view.  If you happen to be having a bad run and find yourself wallowing in pity—stop.  Take a moment and look for the good that can be seen in your experience.  If you cannot think of a good thing, ask a close friend or family member to help.  You have to choose to see things differently.  Break your Nature of viewing nature in a negative light, so that you can change your outlook on life. 

Nick Massey is a Life Coach, Speaker, and Writer. To read more from Nick Massey, or to schedule him for a Life Coaching session, or book him to speak to your church, business, or group, visit our website at http://www.coachmassey.com. © 2014 Nick Massey