My #1 Secret to Silencing Haters and Building Success

          You know who I’m talking about.  Haters!  It doesn’t matter what you do, they have something to say.  Seems like every time you have a good idea, or vision, they come along and do what they do best—hate!  And as much as you don’t like to admit it, you often walk away discouraged and exasperated.  Would you like to know how to silence haters?  It is actually pretty easy.  The secret is this, you feed what you want to live, and starve what you want to die.  So let’s make this practical.

          After thoughtfully considering what God would have you do, you are so excited to tell someone!  So starve the Haters and feed the Lovers.  What does it look like to starve a Hater from spoiling your dreams?  You could simply not talk to them about your vision.  You could even stop spending time with them altogether.  This may sound difficult and harsh, or not even feasible (sometimes you live with Haters, and if that’s the case, refer to idea number one).  If your vision matters, you need to protect it.  But another principle is at work here too.  You have to replace what you take out (I am not suggesting divorce or running away).  Let me explain.

          When you starve the Haters, you have to feed the Lovers (I am not suggesting adultery either).  Identify the people who are Haters and Lovers in your life.  They look like this.  Haters point to your past failures, and Lovers point to your future success.  Haters hold you down, Lovers hold you accountable.  Haters ask you sarcastic and dream busting questions, while Lovers ask you sincere and dream building questions.  Also, I want to make sure I am not misunderstood—flowery praise is cheap support.  You are not looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear.  True Lovers are real people who genuinely care about your success.  In short, Lovers are people who will listen to your idea, ask thoughtful questions, and support you in your decisions.

          I must tell you the truth though, Haters are plentiful and Lovers few.  If we had more Lovers in this world, people as a whole would have more fulfilled and successful lives.  No need to get discouraged though, there are people who can help you—Life Coaches!  Life Coaches are people who love your dream, and want to help you get there.  Over the next couple of weeks, I will be writing about some of the things that Life Coaches do to support you. 

          The bottom line here is that you need to limit your exposure to Haters, and seek out healthy connections in your life with Lovers.  The healthiest connection that you can have is that with your Creator.  He listens to you, makes you think about what you are doing, and moves along side of you offering guidance.  As you yield to Him, you will experience true and eternal success.  I want you to be all that God has called you to be.  That is why I do what I do as a Life Coach, Speaker, and Writer.  Silence the Haters and Break your Nature!

Nick Massey is a Life Coach, Speaker, and Writer.  To read more from Nick Massey, or to schedule him for a Life Coaching session, or book him to speak to your church, business, or group, visit our website at http://www.coachmassey.com. © 2014 Nick Massey